Fridays are usually my a-few-free-moments days. I teach only in the morning and during the lunch time I visit a friend of mine. It has become our fortnightly habit. Let´s call her the Enchanteress. She knows me. I mean I can be myself in front of her so she really knows who I am.
So. What can we talk about when we meet? About men. Of course. And relationships. And shoes. Well, the girls´stuff.
Last Friday she was quite taciturn. So I asked her what had happened. And she answered: "We´re screwed". "What? How" "I have read an article on the internet recently...." (All the time, she reads those articles in women´s magazines which tell you how to understand men better. I hardly ever read them so she enlightens me sometimes.)
She read that the basic mistake most of the women do is that after a date they send a message to a man first. And at that point they stop being a prey for the man and therefore they stop being interesting.
Me: "So when I thank him for the dinner or when I send him a birthday card I am not interesting any more?"
Me: "But.. isn´t it...just that I am polite?"
Enchanteress: "Well, maybe. But we should stop being polite!"
Me: "Great. So when I am polite I am not a pray, when I am not a pray I am screwed."
Enchanteress: "I am glad you understand."
Enchanteress: "No! There is no but! I know you! You write all the time! Well, me too, but it should stop!"
Me: "But still! Can´t we just act like grown-ups? Being polite and tell everything straight to the point? Just sometimes? When I like something or somebody I speak to them, it´s simple..."
Enchanteress: "You didn´t listen! No!"
Me: "Gosh.... Ok, I will not speak or write to anybody anymore as the first one, therefore I will be extremely mysterious and therefore I will be extremely interesting."
So. I am going to fade to the shadows of my mind and practise how not to be me:-)